Soooo, no Black Widow movie then? No Wonder Woman movie? No it’s cool, it’s cool, I’ll just be waiting. Over here. Eventually with my grandkids.
I actually don’t think we should shit on young women like Shailene Woodley for saying they aren’t feminists.
It’s not her fault that she’s be taught the ‘wrong’ definition of that word. It’s not her fault that she thinks it’s socially dangerous to call herself a…
I don’t think we should leave them alone and here’s why: I was that 20 something year old kid. I thought that feminism was synonymous with hating men. Feminist film theory was all about the male gaze and how everything was from the male perspective. About the objectification of women. And being young and realizing that maybe I wasn’t completely straight, it’s something I didn’t understand because I liked looking at girls, too. Don’t blame the men! I do it too! I’d read all of this literature that seemed so anti-man and I loved men (still do), so I didn’t understand that either. And so I said that I wasn’t a feminist. Feminists were butch lesbians who hated men. Wanted them to be castrated. Thought they were all a bunch of assholes.
And then my kind Internet friends educated me. And I am eternally grateful. Because my concept of feminism? So fucking off base. Do you think that women are equal to men? You’re a feminist. Do you believe in equal pay for equal work? Oh, shit! You’re a feminist! Political, social, and economic equality to men. That is what feminists want. And I think that’s what Shailene Woodley and all of these other young women want, too. But they’ve been taught that feminism is bad. It’s dirty. It’s about women ruling men. It’s about tearing men down. And it’s not! Because it’s not about men. It’s about women and it’s about equality. It’s just that simple.
Do I think that these young women should be berated? No. Should they be harassed? No. But they do need to be educated. They need to understand the full scope of what they’re rebelling against before they can actually rebel against it. Yes, they’re young and we can forgive their ignorance, but it doesn’t mean we brush it off and move past it. We educate. We inform. We nurture. That’s what we do.
When Shailene Woodley says that she’s not a feminist because she “loves men,” she is completely missing the point. And fine, we’ve all had that friend who misses the point, too. And if we don’t know that person, then we’ve probably been that person. Here’s the difference: most of us are not celebrities. We’re not in a position of power. We don’t have legions of young women and men who cling to our every word. So when Ms. Woodley says stuff like this, people listen. They listen and they internalize it and that’s damaging. Because when you make statements about things that you don’t fully understand, you have the ability to influence others in a negative way. And maybe there are some teenagers out there who are listening to her and thinking, “Huh. Well, I love men, too. I must not be a feminist either.” That is fucked. It’s fucked and ignorant and so, so young. So immature. And it’s damaging. They need to learn.
I say this as a woman. I say this as an educator. I say this a feminist. I say this as someone who is sick and tired of being thought of as less than. I say this as someone who didn’t understand that she was thought of as less than until someone else pointed it out to her. And I’m telling you, once you notice that this inequality exists, you’ll never forget it. And you’ll want to fight to restore balance. Because it’s the right thing to do. Because we are not less than.
Educate. Inform. Nurture. People’s lives depend on it.
"My response to the “I am not a feminist” internet phenomenon….
First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.”
But here is what I think you should know.
You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.
You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.
You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).
You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.
In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.
In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.”
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