“What I think these comments do underscore is why we shouldn’t have a bunch of politicians, a majority of whom are men, making healthcare decisions on behalf of women.”—President Obama

How to Make a Rape Joke—Lindy West

lizlet:

“The world is full of terrible things, including rape, and it is okay to joke about them. But the best comics use their art to call bullshit on those terrible parts of life and make them better, not worse. The key—unless you want to be called a garbage-flavored dick on the internet by me and other humans with souls and brains—is to be a responsible person when you construct your jokes. Since the nuances of personal responsibility seem to escape so many people, let’s go through it. Let’s figure out rape jokes.”

— Lindy West is here to teach us how to make a rape joke, and it’s wonderful.

The defensive refrains currently echoing around the internet are, “You just don’t get it—comedians need freedom. That’s how comedy gets made. If you don’t want to be offended, then stay out of comedy clubs.” (Search for “comedians,” “freedom,” “offended,” and “comedy clubs” on Twitter if you don’t believe me.) You’re exactly right. That is how comedy gets made. So CONSIDER THIS YOUR FUCKING FEEDBACK. Ninety percent of your rape material is not working, and you can tell it’s not working because your audience is telling you that they hate those jokes. This is the feedback you asked for.

I think this is finally a piece of commentary that works for me.

I’m Gonna Need You to Fight Me On This: How Violent Sex Helped Ease My PTSD

awfulleisure:

“It’s okay to cry,” said Meredith Broome, a brilliant Bay Area therapist who specializes in trauma, during one of our phone sessions that summer. I was having a weepy little fit because a white oil-spill worker threatened to lynch any black oil-spill worker who hit on me.

“Everyone’s going to think I’m not tough enough to do my job.”

“You don’t know what Anderson Cooper does when he goes home at night.”

It’s no surprise because the author is one of my favorite writers, but this article blew me away. And although I should probably heed it as a warning to stay away from this kind of journalism, it only makes me want to do it more.